Weddings seem to arrive like buses, you don’t get invited to any and then they come all at once. If you accept every invite this can make being a wedding guest an expensive affair.
Whether you’re on a budget or just have a lot of weddings to attend, my list below will hopefully give you some ideas how you might be able to save some money as a wedding guest.
1. Set yourself a budget
You’ve probably been given plenty of notice when wedding is going to take place, so use your time between now and then to consider your budget and most importantly stick to it.
You don’t have to spend a fortune to help the couple celebrate, being there in itself is enough, well it should be anyway.
2. Avoid buying a new outfit
I’ve got a suit that I will dust off for every occasion only having to buy a new pair of trousers when they become worn or I put on or lose weight.
There isn’t any shame in wearing the same outfit twice and if you’re judged by those that have seen you in that outfit more than once, I think it’s probably time you considered your circle of friends.
Depending on how far you live from the venue taking a taxi there can be expensive, by driving you are not only saving yourself a bit of money, you also have the added benefit of being able to leave when it suits you and not a prearranged time.
There’s nothing worse than being dragged away from a party that you are enjoying.
4. Get a lift to and from the venue
If you know someone that is going to be driving to the venue, get a lift, hopefully, they won’t expect anything from you by way of cash but even if they do, it will probably still be cheaper than taking a taxi.
I guess the only problem in doing this is that you are at their mercy and if they want to stay or go that will mean that you are going to have to do the same, unless of course you are able to arrange a lift back home from another guest in the meantime.
Unless there’s going to be a free bar, it’s likely that you are probably going to want to buy a few drinks at the wedding breakfast.
By taking cash you are only going to send what you have on you and if you’ve taken any notice of point 1 any money that you take with you will form part of that budget.
6.If you have to book accommodation, consider whether the venue is the cheapest option?
When my wife and I got married our wedding venue had some beautiful rooms that a few of our guests could stay in if they didn’t want the hassle of figuring out how they were going to get home after they had had a few drinks and a dance.
As nice as the rooms weren’t cheap and when planning your attendance look for hotels in the area and compare prices
7.Don’t feel pressured to stick to the gift list
A wedding shouldn’t be an excuse for a bride and groom ask their guests to pick from a list of items that are simply overpriced and probably not something that they would buy themselves. Do they really need those crystal champagne flutes, probably not?
If you are artsy why not make them something personal, if you are not, there are plenty of websites offering personalised gift ideas that don’t necessarily have to cost the earth.
If you really want to make sure that they are getting something from their guest list do it fast so that you can buy them something within your budget.
8.Don’t attend every wedding that you are invited to
As nice as it is to have been thought of, there isn’t any pressure to accept every invitation you receive. In some instances, I’m sure there are good enough reason not to attend.
If money is the only reason for not attending why not invite the newlyweds around to yours for a bite to eat when things have calmed down for them.
Things to remember as a wedding guest
The gifts you buy are not that important
You have been invited to celebrate the coming together of two people close to you committing their lives together, the trinkets that you buy can be lost, broken or forgotten about so don’t but pressure on yourself to find the perfect gift, there is no such thing.
No matter how small you feel your part is the wedding, everything that you say or do helps to create memories for the happy couple so don’t let the pressures of the expense affect your enjoyment of the day.