My wife often tells me that romance isn’t reserved for valentines day and despairs that in all the years that I’ve known her haven’t brought home flowers.
It’s not that I’m the kind of person that doesn’t do romance, I just feel that it can be shown in many different ways that don’t necessarily have to involve buying a bunch of flowers that are going to wilt in a few days.
I know, you’re probably thinking that I’m probably the last of the romantics here, aren’t you?
So what is my idea of a romantic gesture?
I grew up in a household full of women, so you would think that I would have some idea about what romance actually looked like, unfortunately, I don’t
My mum, she spent most of her time working and when she wasn’t she was raising me together with my Nan, so this didn’t leave much time for her to find a boyfriend so never saw what the realities of romance actually looked like.
So most of my ideas of what romance was came about from films of the 90s that I watched, all of which seemed to centre around some over the top gesture that saw some rich or poor loser in love getting the girl of their dreams.
So back to reality and all those romantic gestures that I learnt from the movies have never come to fruition but never the less I found the woman of my dreams, well she found me anyway. The wonders of the internet.
So if you are looking for some way of showing someone you love them here are some romantic ideas you could try if you are on a budget.
So what are some romantic ideas if you are on a budget.
1 Cook a meal
If you are the type of person that has to get the sat nav out just to find your way to the kitchen, why not surprise the love of your life with a surprise meal when they get home from work? There are plenty of free easy recipes online so there are no excuses.
2 Go for a walk
There are plenty of parks and nature reserves that are free or cost very little to gain entry.
Why not go walking hand in hand and really listening to each other, not just nodding and grunting once in a while to look as though you’re listening. Guilty.
3 Have a picnic
If you’re going for a walk, why not take a picnic, it doesn’t have to be anything from Fortnum and Mason, a few sandwiches and drinks should do nicely.
4 Leave romantic messages to each other
If you’re someone that will usually just write love from in your card, why not try and be a little more Shakespearean and express your love in ways that might seem uncharacteristic.
If you struggle with saying how you feel then writing them down are the next best thing and they can be kept too.
5 Run a bath
Who doesn’t like a bath?
Candles and bubbles are the main order of the day and if you can have your music on softly without fear of electrocution then put something soft on and let them enjoy some time for themselves.
You might also want to join them if your bath is big enough and you haven’t filled it to the point where an extra body might cause flood damage.
6 Act like teenagers
When you’re a teenager in love, you act as though you are the only two people in the world and nothing can tear you apart.
Living together and dealing with what life throws at you can make you sometimes forget why you ended up together in the first place.
7 Give big hugs
You shouldn’t have to be asked to give your loved one a hug.
Unless they don’t like you in their space just give them that little squeeze to remind them that you still want to be close.
8 Tell them you love them
Just saying those three words without being asked or being a default reply can sometimes mean more to your loved one than any diamond ring or free reign over the remote control.
Don’t get me wrong though, I’m sure there are plenty out there that would still take a diamond ring given the choice.
9 Get sensual
Don’t be like me and put a timer on when you give your other half a massage, take your time and try and not do it while you’re watching your favourite television programme.
Get some oils if and take your time, maybe mix it with some soft kisses and stroking too.
10 Get crafting
I’m not suggesting that you have to learn to knit or Get that PVA glue and those blunt scissors out and get making something from the heart.
You don’t have to be Tony Hart, you just have to make some effort and time to think about what your loved one would like.
11 Buy them something small
Whether it be a film that they said that they liked or their favourite chocolate bar.
It’s those little things that show you’ve been thinking of them even when you’re not with them that count.
- Don’t force it, be spontaneous and make sure it feels natural
- Make sure whatever you do is personal to you both
- Show that you have taken the time to think about the other person
- Don’t confuse spending a lot of money with showing how much you love someone.
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