I recently had an interesting conversation regarding about bailiffs being instructed to collect a debt from a parent that had not paid for their child’s school meals.
This then led onto a further discussion about how this particular bailiff could sleep at night knowing that they were trying to get money from a parent that couldn’t afford to send their child to school with a packed lunch, then had the added stress of knowing that they would have to deal with bailiffs knocking at their door.
When the discussion had ended, I considered the points of the discussion and was troubled by the fact that someone was being criticising for doing their job.
I’ve never had bailiffs at my door and won’t pretend to know what it feels like, but question why it was felt that someone shouldn’t be able to sleep for doing what they are paid to do?
Like any profession, I’m sure there are some good and some bad bailiffs.
But let’s stop for a second.
Is it right to criticise for doing their job?
We live in a society, quite rightly, where we recognise that it’s wrong to shame someone the way that they look, their sexuality, but I never hear the conversation about job shaming.
In a post that I wrote back in October, I asked some bloggers what they were most grateful for both financially and in general.
What I found from the responses was that many were grateful they were able to do what they loved financially whilst having the support of family to enable them to follow their passion.
The thing is not everyone is so fortunate and while the job that they might be doing might not be something that an individual wants for themselves it puts food on the table for themselves or their families so why should someone feel shamed for doing an honest days work?
If you have read some of my other posts you will know that my current 9 to 5 isn’t something that I particularly enjoy or see myself doing in years to come but at the moment as the sole earner, it is putting a roof over our heads and food on the table and with a baby on the way is a necessary evil.
So what do you do?
We’ve probably all been asked the question at some point, haven’t we?
It seems to be one of those go to questions when meeting someone new that we default to after mentioning the weather.
Even to this day I won’t tell people what I do and keep my answer general and I won’t mention my employer.
I’ve historically even belittled myself responding with “I’m only a” or saying it quietly and quickly so not to be heard.
Straight off the bat, I’m job shaming myself.
So what does this say about me?
Firstly it clearly shows that I am not satisfied in my current role and long for the day that I can be proud to say would I do and who I work for.
Secondly, it shows that job shaming is something that we’ve all probably been guilty of. If you think that you haven’t, ask yourself when was the last time that you spoke negatively about a traffic warden or estate agent.
Just give up work, it’s easy!
I’ve read a few blog posts about how we should save an emergency fund specifically for the reason of giving up the jobs that we hate so that we can follow our passions, let’s be honest here though giving up work and following a passion isn’t easy, unless your circumstances allow.
I’ve submitted applications and been invited interviews only to be told that I don’t have enough experience or I’m overqualified.
If this was the case why ask me for an interview and I wouldn’t have applied if I felt I was over qualified
When I was younger I did just that, I gave up work to try and start a business, it didn’t work out but it didn’t matter as I had no responsibilities or people relying on me.
If you haven’t guessed it already I’m no fan of shaming someone based on the job that they do or the career that they have chosen.
So before criticising someone on the job that they have.
STOP!, they are earning a living and no one should be criticised for that.
Ask yourself if they weren’t doing the job, would you? You probably wouldn’t, but you’d be the first to moan if the job that they did wasn’t being done by someone.