Popping the question wasn’t ever something that I would see myself doing, but I did, look at me all grown up.
That was it, I was happy that I’d done my bit and I’d be able to leave everything to the bride and the soon to be mother in law, only having to transfer money into someone’s account now and then and just turn up on the day, me being me I was more than happy to let my fiancé do the work, I was the groom, what kind of input could I have had that would be either useful or listened to for that matter?
How wrong I was!
Where, When, What, How
The venue was probably my fiancé’s biggest headache.
Were we going to have somewhere close, a venue that would just hold the reception meaning that we would have to get married somewhere else, would people be able to attend and could we get a venue that we liked that wasn’t too expensive.
She was struggling to find a venue and I could see that this was stressing her so thought I’d ease the burden and do some research into venues, I guess it was my wedding too, so I’d have to do something.
I found what I thought was just us and we arranged a visit to the venue. Just driving up through the long driveway of their fields and seeing the old farmhouse we both instantly knew that it was the place for us, the tour and the discussion with the venue manager made us even more certain.
After the tour we sat down with the manager to discuss the would no doubt be my least favourite topic of the venue visit, the cost. Our jaws almost dropped when he went over prices, I wanted to hire the venue not buy it.
What about a weekday wedding?
It was then we discussed a weekday wedding, not something that we had thought about, we were both of the view that weddings had to be at a weekend, how else were people that we wanted to be there going to be able to take time off just to come and celebrate with little old us.
We were surprised how much cheaper the venue was but was in turmoil as to whether a weekday wedding would suit our guests.
It was only when we got home after our meeting that common sense prevailed and we remembered that the day was about us, not the logistics of whether people could make it.
Anyone that cared for us would do their best to share our day no matter whether it was a weekday or a weekend. We were under no illusion that our guest list wouldn’t be that big but that was only another bonus, an intimate occasion for close family and friends.
Come the big day, we couldn’t have asked for a better setting, yes it was windy and raining in the morning but by the time we got around to saying our vowels, nothing could have been more perfect. The staff were attentive and the food was out of this world.
We had created our perfect wedding regardless of the day and have some fantastic memories and pictures of the day.
According to Brides Magazine the average cost of a wedding is £30,111, so as I’m sure you will agree if you are able to decrease the costs in any way possible it can only be a positive and a weekday wedding is certainly something that you shouldn’t dismiss straight away.
What are the pros of a weekday wedding?
- The venue that you want for cheaper
- Professional services such as photographers, hairdressers and makeup artists could be cheaper
- Depending on your choice of honeymoon destination, fights could be cheaper during the week as opposed to a weekend
- A more intimate service
What are the cons of a weekday wedding?
- Not everyone you want to be there will be able to make it
- Some guests will have to leave early due to next day work commitments
- Guests with children might not be able to attend
What are your thoughts?
Are you a traditionalist that believes that a wedding should only be held on a weekend or did you also have a weekday wedding what you now regret or wouldn’t change for the world.