In a post I wrote back in January 2017, I posted the 5 reasons I wasn’t ready to be a dad.
Fast forward to today and my wife and I are expecting our first child in the not too distant future.
While the concerns I had then are still true today, knowing that we are going to be responsible for bringing a child into the world isn’t as scary as I first thought it might be, in fact together with the stresses and the uncertainties that pregnancy and childbirth brings, I’ll admit that I’m quite excited about the changes that it will bring.
1. Gives me something to focus on other than myself
I wouldn’t consider myself to be a selfish person but knowing that you have a little human being relying on you for all of it’s needs certainly puts things in perspective.
No longer can I do things just because I want to, or don’t as so often the case.
2. Nurturing another human being to be the best them they can be
As I’ve become older I’d like to think that I’ve become a little wiser, I’m sure a vast majority of those that know me might not agree.
Being able to pass on this knowledge in order that they might be able to live a happier life fills me with excitement but at the same time a huge amount of concern.
3. It will get me out of the house more
I’m not as young as I used to be and my weekends usually involve doing something around the house or going shopping.
Since hearing that we are expecting our first child my wife has had me driving to any and all nearby baby shops looking for those things that she tells me that we desperately need for the arrival of our little one.
4. Reason to take better care of myself
In my teens, twenties and early thirties I kept myself in shape, granted my diet might not have been the best but at least I made the effort.
I’m now in my late thirties, approaching 40 and don’t seem to have the drive to do anything that looks like that it might involve or resemble some level of exercise.
As an older parent, I don’t want to be known as the parent that gets out of breath just walking from the car to the park so things are going to have to change.
5. I get to be the dad that mine never was
Mine did a runner before I was born, so I don’t know what kind of person that I might have become had he been around, seeing as he knew that I had reconnected with my grandparents in my late teens and him never making the effort to be there when I was going around to their house gives me some idea.
6. I’ve got an excuse now to start watching children’s television again
When my wife is all tucked up in bed and I’ve woken up, 9 out of 10 times I’ll make my way down stair and stick on some children’s television.
I know that the baby isn’t going to be watching some of the shows that I watch straight away, so I better get used to watching Peppa Pig I guess and all the other stuff that babies generally like to watch.
7. I get to be a scary dad
In my teens and early twenties, I hated having to go to girlfriends houses for fear that I might get 20 questions and fail the dad test.
Admittedly it was never as bad as I made it out to be in my head, so I aim to change that when the opportunity presents itself in 30+ years time when our child will be allowed to date.
No one that my child brings home to meet the parents is going to be good enough to date them and certainly not marry them, so I’m looking forward to being the dad that asks all of those awkward questions that would have you squirming in your seat.
8. I’ll have an excuse to be a bad dancer
Contrary to popular belief not all black men can dance and I’m certainly one of those that can’t. Being a dad will allow me to be a fully fledged member of the dad dancing club and no one expects that to be good, do they?